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But as the online social networks and platforms for all crowds of people including the ones who step into the silver age are exploding rapidly everyday, more and more senior citizens who are over 70 took the plunge and wish to meet a man or woman who can change their life. I hope this doesnt offend you. Yes older men are paranoid and bad tempered etc but she tells lies about her age.

Be specific Your dating profile is the front door to show you to other members on dating sites. Then, miraculously, I found somebody who sounded just right, a film producer with several well-known films to his credit.

And yet, the fastest growing segment for online dating is the 50+ market. Internet dating for over 70 is very risky in America today for men. I also find them men are looking for women 10-15 or more years younger. Look at all the sitcoms which feature the smart, attractive wife but clueless, average-looking hubby. But in fact in six I can count on one hand the number of women who have written back and no actual dates. I live in Houston, and the dating pool is pretty bad in general at every age. I hope this doesnt offend you. The problem with the 40+ guys is they will never commit to you, or very seldom if you are older. It is as though once you reach 60 your in a category that no one explores unless they are well over 70 or a fake profile. They want to meet someone of their age, who is experienced and has a lot of stories to share, who is free, full of enthusiasm and who is eager to see places they have never been to and did the things they have dreamt about for their entire life. Sure the long term prospects are not good with a much younger woman. I divorced a man that over years stopped making an effort in our relationship and pretty much parked me with the kids, chores, duties, etc.

Dating sites for us oldies? Only if you could love a total loser! - Sometimes it was flattering and sometimes a problem frankly. Most men my age that I talk to are very gun shy about loosing their freedom they are fairly emotionally bruised by past relationships.

I initiate contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself. In other words, Match. When I have emailed some of those guys, I never hear back. I assume the reason for this is they can get younger women to respond to them, so why would they go for me when they have a chance with the 45 year-old version of me? If their first wife was their age, like a college sweetheart or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer model, so to speak. Our culture encourages this. I am disinclined to lie about my age. And the real-world opportunities can be few and far between. Sara Dear Sara, Older men have more options than older women online and in real life because they can usually date somewhat younger. I can only disagree with your ultimate conclusion. So here are the facts: Older men have more options than older women online and in real life because they can usually date somewhat younger. Older men have a huge blind spot when it comes to age. And yet, the fastest growing segment for online dating is the 50+ market. More unhappy couples are getting divorced when the kids leave the house. More people work from home. More people spend 10 hours a day at the office. More people have computers and are aware of someone who found love online. If you meet a guy through friends, at the market, at a concert, great. Having a profile on Match. Are you using Reverse Match? Are you using Daily Matches? Are you adding men to your favorites list? Are you putting in a half hour a day? All you can do is change your mindset and approach to the dating process and let the chips fall where they may. I agree with everything Evan says and based on your advice Evan Ive tweaked my profile with your suggestions e. Most importantly I agree your photos have to be great. I chose to adjust my age down a few years since I was being eliminated by what seems like half the men my age when I put my real age. Match is a much more age criteria oriented site than say POF. They have told me of their frustration with lack of responses. What interesting is that younger guys early 40s vs those my own age seem more interested. I tried it for about 6 months once years ago and found it to be a time consuming wasted effort for the most part. I put that time into persuing what I love to do and enrich my life. I have a wonderful career and enjoy playing music part time. I am happier now then ever before, and more women come into my life because of that success. Is it to inform us that you have broken free of the shackles created by a mindset that external forces dictate happiness? Is it an achievement of some objective? I read it as sharing his experience. Do you honestly think people should only come here to praise what you want praised? What an odd odd way to look at the world. When my marriage fell apart a year ago people tried to reassure me that I was a catch. And I still thing I should be — am tall, trim, look young for 48, run my own successful company, know how to dance, am a community leader with environmental education and in my profession, lecture at university, write, from an exotic place Alaska. As a result I am very busy so online dating looked like the solution. But in fact in six I can count on one hand the number of women who have written back and no actual dates. I picked women in my own date range and attractiveness range. Just to check I wrote to quite older women and less attractive than myself. Got on Tinder and swiped nearly every woman. Tried all sorts of pictures. When I talk to my female friends they say they are inundated. The only dates I have had, 2, were from old friends who both told me they had been fantasising about me for years but then they left it at that and rarely return my calls. Really out to sea on all of this — so much has changed since I was last dating 26 years ago. Sounds like you are a good guy and doing all you can to find someone new. For example, a balding man may still be considered good looking by a lot of women, whereas a woman with thinning hair would not be considered beautiful by most people, never mind men. Handsome faces, at whatever age, turns women on, a la Sean Connery, Tom Selleck, and Sam Elliot. In which case, in the age of the internet, you would be at a disadvantage. While Evan is a proponent of the internet, I believe he met his wife via setup by friends. So you might want to ask your friends to set you up. Or it could simply be the way you dress, style your hair, etc. You might need to ask some gal-friends to give you advice on whether you need a physical makeover of some kind wardrobe as well as hair. And talk to some single gal-friends whose opinions you respect about your dates to see if they can give you some insights to improving whatever behaviors you may need to improve upon for dating success. Women dislike that the same way men dislike insecurity in women. We prefer authenticity, even if that is more rough around the edges than a guy who tries too hard to please. So you might want to ask your friends to set you up. We met at a party — even though we were both on Match at the same time. That says far more about our limiting search criteria her: no Jewish guys, me: no older women than it does about online dating itself. Not balding, have full head of hair with gray at the temples, and women do flirt with me quite a bit. Have had a number of friends with fashion sense help dress me. Perhaps my problem is a tendency to be very friendly and helpful and smile all the time. Have been told I come off like a goofy kid, a bit hyper. She will be back in town in a year and she likes me, but timing, geography etc. Friends are telling me to play the field and not be so serious, and so I am just trying to put myself out there to get some confidence. That kind of language steers me away but for many guys this would simultaneously turn them off a relationship while communicating to them how they need to lie in order to get what they want. Most men my age that I talk to are very gun shy about loosing their freedom they are fairly emotionally bruised by past relationships. At the same time not having sex feels lousy and is hard to put up with. But of course they are. They only show interest in men their own age when the supply of younger men dries up, or the men start to lose interest in them. People too fickle in online dating sites. My point in my earlier comment is valid in many cases though. Sure, I find women who are younger than me not too much younger more attractive — on balance. But there are ways around this. First, a woman has to specifically state what she offers a man that he wants in the context of dating and relationships. This is not good marketing. It is not about marketing as much as it is about compatability…something you never spoke of. You can market all you want and get a bad product. Be thoughtful Men are not gatekeepers to commitment. Trusebreakers, unfaithful and such is life. When I say men I mean humanity. Entirely too many profiles of both genders do not take the audience into account. Sadly, many of the ones that DO offer a lot are scammers. But that is a different problem. Women flooded with mail have no choice but to say no to someone hiding behind a list of demands. Also sick of hearing women have to do this or that to get a man, every age group gets it, what am I getting exactly? You want women to open up and put themselves at risk and for women meeting strangers who use dating sites to narrow down candidates, or is that prey, the risks are significant and potentially deadly then you need to lead by example with an open profile yourself, transparency and taking things at an intensity and pace that makes her feel like she can trust you. Try some other sites do the real life activities where you can meet new people etc. Something about paying those few dollars a month seems to make men feel entitled to babes no older than 40. I am 35 and I will not date a woman who is not in her early to mid 20s. Its SOOOO hard to have a meaningful fun clean conversation with them. I hope this doesnt offend you. I did say that it was 90%+ so not everyone falls into this camp. How times have changed. On online dating sites, I am usually approached by men whose age vary between mid 20s to mid 60s. In the two cases, i am always surprised. Why are these people unable to relate to women in their age range? I mean I could be the mother to one group and the daughter of the second. What do they talk about? What would they have in common? I also wish men would behave better and not give women a reason to be so defensive. I would never berate you for your choices. We live in a free world and can do anything we want. But please consider that there are very very nice women who you are automatically eliminating with this mindset, which oddly enough is based on the same prejudice that you are disparaging. Women in their thirties are great. And we have the freedom to do so. Its funny, as I got slightly older 32 I had more men in their early 30s messaging me, might just be that I improved my profile and pictures. Now I am marrying a man 7 years older than me. I met my now fiance, 2 years younger, on-line last year on OKCupid. Venture onto some other sites, be patient, do the work. I am sixty one. I always have photos that are current. I just joined match again about 2 weeks ago and within that time I have been winked at 40 times, 6 of those from real people, I think, and the 36 from men who disappear in 3 days. I have received at least 10 emails from men saying contact me at blablabla. I also find them men are looking for women 10-15 or more years younger. I find it interesting that a lot of these men have pictures of themselves that are younger, some even post photos from High School. I have a lot to offer by the way in terms of what I bring to a relationship. I tried an experiment once and lowered my age to see what would happen and I did have more men viewing my profile and connected with a man who joined me for lunch. I concur that I am at a disadvantage because of my age when it comes to online dating. It is as though once you reach 60 your in a category that no one explores unless they are well over 70 or a fake profile. Been there, done that. Many of us take very good care of the body we have. I found that almost all of the men on Match. I am so over it. Sure the long term prospects are not good with a much younger woman. But in my experience a lot of much younger women go for me. Why would we want to marry someone that is sexually inactive or will leave us a widow for twenty years? What makes the most sense is for women to marry a man five years younger so that they die approximately the same time. It is pretty selfish to marry someone much younger and leave them a widow er for decades. Certainly a man can gather much about a woman from reading her profile, and women are often so inundated with replies from poor matches that they become exasperated and begin to set boundaries; yet for me this language implies an attitude of entitlement and self-absorption, and suggests perhaps an assumption that she is the more desired one in the deal. Perhaps women are used to being pursued. Clearly men can often behave the same way, just wanting sex. I believe the deeper truth is that most people just blunder unconsciously into relationships, compelled by their poorly understood desires, knowing neither themselves or what they want from a relationship. A well written profile should demonstrate those things without being obvious. And men should still be the pursuers. Flag and move on. It was a huge waste of time. In an 8 month period I had 1400 women view me, I contacted 40, ten replied, and NONE would even meet for coffee. How many of these women get dating offers at this age anyway? Online dating is overrated. Women 50 plus complain a lot about men their age rejecting them. My experience was —they reject men their age very fast. I live in Houston, and the dating pool is pretty bad in general at every age. They usually have adult children also. It would be tough for me to blend easily into their lives. Time to go overseas. Even when I was younger, 20—30s, I found dating very hard. My brother married a girl from Thailand. He was over 40 when he married. I handled many divorce cases as a paralegal. Marriage is very risky in America today for men. Be careful of your judgment of others. Dated primarily younger men, and sometimes much younger men 17, 22 years! Like Misha, I noticed VERY few men had broad age ranges: Most stopped at dating anyone more than 2 years older. The problem with the 40+ guys is they will never commit to you, or very seldom if you are older. The funny thing is both me and my current bf ONLY dated younger for the most part when online dating. Shaved off quite a few years too girls! What helped is I have a killer figure thin, but curves, 36D and pretty face thanks to years of intermittant plastic surgery but nothing below the waist til recently coolsculpting which I recommend. Men have always been attracted to me in person. Sometimes it was flattering and sometimes a problem frankly. But I am NOT botoxed to death. Just no sag, and filler only where I need it Restylane! I am also not obsessed with my appearance, just have the time, money and desire to tweak things when I can, but only every 3-4 years on average. Think of the serving action, but I digress. Like Andrew proposes I also had a profile that clearly showcased my caring, intuitive, sweet side. My good nature, etc. I only threw in a few caveats about players and Bible thumpers no to both. Otherwise it was almost sugary, my profile. No, you just have to LIE, pure and simple. Look at all the sitcoms which feature the smart, attractive wife but clueless, average-looking hubby. Uh, they married why? But to return to this thread…. Dating after, say, 58 or 59 is NOT worth the effort imo. Am ok with my solitude now. Crave it actually bf and I have a long distance relationship but only 72 miles. We are only apart about 4 nights before reunited though. And plan to live together at some point in the future. Listen to the Streisand version circa 1965. Yes older men are paranoid and bad tempered etc but she tells lies about her age. What is the point? Nothing worked for her before. Also if you need plastic surgery you are not a natural beauty. I am in my 60s and young people say I am nice looking however I am married and was reading this for my sister. She will say pffffttt same as me reading that comment. I think Ellen is going to be very disappointed and celibacy as she says will be her reward. Maybe we should all be proud of being who we are at whatever age we are. Saying you are so much better than your stated age just shows the prejudice we all carry when it comes to age. I wonder if we will ever accept age as an asset instead of a liability. It would be so nice if we could write a profile saying we look our age. What is wrong with that? First off, things get worse with age not better. You are let interested in doing things out doors. You become less fun. You become set in your ways. You look less attractive as you get older. Why would you not want to look younger. IF a person does their job of taking good care of themselves most of those unattractive elements can be avoided most of the time. I could spell it out further but I think you are intelligent enough to know it. I have worked with seniors for the last seven years. And there are those who are older and do the work: exercise, eat well, stay active, have hobbies and a social life and basically are thriving — and that makes me happy to see. What we bring to the table is worth looking beyond the numbers. I am 53 and look about 45…really. I took great care of myself. Im a little overweight but I have tremendous energy, flexibility and grace. I take great care of myself. Men find me attractive. They see them as past it, crotchety, fixed, unable to change. The image of the older man in our culture. Ive met American men who are mature responsible and are comfortable enough in their skin that dating a woman their own age is preferrable. They also see women their age as vibrant and sexy and much more fun to be with. I feel sorry for men who look at age as the only deciding factor. To me it shows they are not happy with where they are in their life. If you choose to not scowl into the webcam for your okcupid profile pic — which a lot of women do! Noticed by George Cloony? I think you need some sort of intricate plan then. Yes, the prospects are fewer when you get to your mid-fifties and sixties and it can seem impossible looking at so many prospects in your age range who by an overwhelming majority say they are seeking someone 15-20 plus years younger. And you know what? I knew what I wanted in companionship and sexuality and simply communicated that as honestly as I could. My fiance and I are the same age and share a similar life path of former long term unhappy marriage, children and grandchildren, values and experience of growing up and traveling through the same decades. We are both in great shape for our age. That did describe an overwhelming majority of the middle aged, suburban women I had hung out with for the twenty plus years I was in the PTA and raising kids. But when my husband left me high and dry I had to recreate myself and make an effort to be fitter, and actually assume an active view of myself as a woman that wants to be attractive for myself and others. Unfortunately, this really is an exception. Too many women in long term marriages or relationships for that matter, get too comfortable and stop looking at themselves or even they spouse as a person they need to make an effort to maintain. I divorced a man that over years stopped making an effort in our relationship and pretty much parked me with the kids, chores, duties, etc. I could o0nly be the best me I could be. But I have learned that being the best me not only worked with my fiance, but also on younger or older men. I am happy knowing how hard I worked on the inner and outer me. And that is what ultimately attracts people to you. My fiance is always saying how he is fascinated how much women adore me and his male friends lust for me. Its a very gracious compliment, but I think it means that I learned to love myself, accept my shortcomings and graces, and appreciate every one for who they are without pretext. You sound like a terrific woman, just keep on doing what you are doing. Your positive attributes will attract someone that will celebrate who you are and feel like the luckiest man on earth! Then again… maybe since you are vested in your appearance… you may attracting what you are projecting. PS i will totally get a neck lift one day and hopefully it will take my boobs with it. So they seek women they feel comfortable with. A younger woman doesnt intimidate them and they think it makes them look and feel younger and more valuable. Sad I feel bad for most men. Society is just as brutal on them as it is on us. Stop all the nonsense. Give it the finger and enjoy each other with all your imperfections. We should be older and wiser now. At this stage we cant afford the time for games or giving our power to someone else. Were too busy running the world and fixing it. Society is as brutal on them as it is on us. The authors of this kettle of hater-aide? I beg to differ. The ones of us who will actually date women in our own age group, are automatically rejected online without even a profile view by most of the same women, who now feel entitled to men from 15 years younger to no more than 2 years older than themselves or so say their online profiles. So I do find your attitude refreshing, along with your idea that maybe us older men and women might show a little more consideration and a little less hate for one another; here, on dating sites, and in real life as well. Then I saw male friends at my age going through the same difficulties. I dont blame anybody. These women have been hurt by men who are very much in pain themselves. Many have experienced rejection and hurt by ageism our culture promotes. They have lost wives to empty nest, children to adulthood and many their jobs which has been a source of their pride, their identity in our culture. Men arent the enemy. We both suffer what is going on…a world that celebrates youth and shoves the old into nursing homes and elder housing…away from being part of the community. Forcing them into uselessness. Our stength is in our numbers. I hope someone will hear the voice in the balcony looking down at the whole game and seeing it for the sad waste of energy it is. In my late thirties I am having many of the issues that people in their 50s are complaining about when it comes to men my age. The conclusion I have come to is that finding a partner is hard work, whatever age you are, and you have to be prepared for a lot of disappointment along the way. My son is a regular participant in this blog and suggested I come on and comment on this post because he and I often have conversations about online dating and dating in general, and he thought I might be able to add to the conversation. I believe in being authentic and that is the kind of man I am looking for, so I am honest in my profile. I wonder what Evan thinks about people shaving a number of years off their age? It means when you get to be OUR age what your drivers license says is meaningless. Meaning you could be 53 and look 45 and vice versa. Never the less………my age range for women in my profile says 43-54 and for the most part those ARE the women I email and meet. I think I get rejected equally by both older and younger women. I did meet a 53 yr. Like I told a date last night. So if you actually do look younger than you are and I know some that DO! And such an illusion of infinite choice. Yet once over the age of 25 all these people us are the detritus who could not form relationships or failed to make them work. Beware, the more attractive the profile, the greater the derangement for even the best have been cast away. The social group is great and I get to go out and do things with like minded people who just want to live their lives and get out and do some fun things. Make online dating a part of your life and be more selective about who you contact or who contacts you. I tend to avoid the profile pictures of the show ponies these days, after meeting some of them for a coffee, I have walked away trying not to laugh on my way out. Talk about overestimating their so called attractiveness! Just be yourself, crinkles, wrinkles, crows feet and all. I met my partner on match. I just turned 57 and he will turn 55 soon. It is true that there are men I corresponded with who looked like Santa Claus to me but wanted to continue to date much younger women. However, I found a number of quality men who wanted to date women their age. One of the problems I saw is that the men are overwhelmed by their number of daily matches 18 per day vs my typical number 6. If I found someone of interest, I read their profile carefully and e-mailed them a short complimentary note and asked them a question or two. In this way, I was able to catch their attention. Many ignored me but quite a few responded and after a few e-mails we would often meet for coffee or drinks. I am sure many women overlooked them for that reason but they wrote well and I decided to e-mail them anyway. I wish everyone well in their search. She has been doing online dating for at least as long as I have, probably longer. Which means a good decade now. I have met many Boomer women like her, with similar mixed or very poor experiences with online dating. I tend to think that Boomer women are at a greater disadvantage than the rest of us for this reason: the majority of Boomer men are still living in the past. By that, I mean that while Boomer women spurred on the social changes of the 1960s and 70s, and have generally tried to live more well rounded lives since, Boomer men are often content to finish out their work lives and then sit in front of a TV, mow the lawn, or hang with their golf buddies on the course until their days are up. Beyond those men, there are another set who are more active and interesting, but who treat dating and relationships today the same way they did 30 or 40 years ago. I have plenty of reservations about PUA and Game, but the fact that younger men are seeking advice shows that they realize they need to take a good look at themselves, and do something different. So, I think the options for many Boomer women are just fewer. The suggestion by a commenter above to try Senior dating sites might be useful, but in general, I think the age and photo driven nature of online dating makes it harder for Boomer women to shine — regardless of what they do.

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And yet, the fastest growing segment for online dating is the 50+ market. Internet dating for over 70 is very risky in America today for men. I also find them men are looking for women 10-15 or more years younger. Look at all the sitcoms which feature the smart, attractive wife but clueless, average-looking hubby. But in fact in six I can count on one hand the number of women who have written back and no actual dates. I live in Houston, and the dating pool is pretty bad in general at every age. I hope this doesnt offend you. The problem with the 40+ guys is they will never commit to you, or very seldom if you are older. It is as though once you reach 60 your in a category that no one explores unless they are well over 70 or a fake profile. They want to meet someone of their age, who is experienced and has a lot of stories to share, who is free, full of enthusiasm and who is eager to see places they have never been to and did the things they have dreamt about for their entire life. Sure the long term prospects are not good with a much younger woman. I divorced a man that over years stopped making an effort in our relationship and pretty much parked me with the kids, chores, duties, etc. Ideer til invitationer til studenterfest Love hina dating sim swf ركن التعارف بالهاتف 2017