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He has such a noble heart and good character. And he is still enthusiastic to see me whenever I visit town.

Heidi Priebe is a personality psychology writer who focuses primarily on the Jung-Myers model of psychological type. To thy own self be true because why not. But INFJs and INTJs always seem to have fuel for great mbti dating guide. A description of each. Try not to take it personally. They may be the ones who frequently bicker but can't do apart. However, there are many times where someone has said harsh things to me, yet I still trust them. You also agree to the specified. However, those who take the time to understand the system will begin to appreciate other people in a completely different light. I wish she would meet me more than halfway on this.

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That changed when I started dating an —someone who is like me in so, so many ways, yet as different as the sun and the moon in others. As a result, this pairing is a common one as common as any pairing can be for such rare personality types. What Makes INFJs and INTJs A Perfect Match? But INFJs and INTJs always seem to have fuel for great conversation. But with our shared love of learning, and the joy we take in connecting different ideas, conversation remains intellectual and riveting long-term. The INFJ is more prone to breaking the silence with an amusing observation, while the INTJ will produce less frequent but far longer rants about something they just read. This may be especially true for INTJs and INFJs, who both tend to have big ambitions but occasional problems with implementation. Thankfully, the problems tend to be complementary: I can help my INFJ plan her work and troubleshoot problems, while she helps me take the social pulse of a situation and gauge whether a project will even find an audience. Together, we get to let our quirky sides out and indulge our flights of fancy—without giving up our generally organized lives. INTJs care about knowledge. INTJs, on the other hand, enjoy discussing the merits of the idea itself, in abstract terms, and treat the personal impact as a footnote. This can come off as deeply insulting, without the INTJ realizing why. INFJs lift people up. In general, INTJs can come across as overly negative, picking apart the inefficiencies or shortcomings of any situation, and this can exhaust an INFJ. Meanwhile, INFJs tend to put out a lot of reassuring, supportive words to those they love, and these words can seem insincere or meaningless to an INTJ—who would much rather get results than a pat on the head. INTJs can see the future. But INFJs see the present, too. We live almost entirely in the future. An INFJ learns early in life to trust his or her gut feeling about someone they meet, while an INTJ views hunches with suspicion often to their detriment. INFJs learn by doing. Instead, her attention is on the conversation, music, or something else enjoyable. In almost everything in life, she will choose comfort or ease of convenience over pure efficiency, and I will choose the opposite. But no couple is perfect, and fights happen. In general, whether a disagreement turns into a fight depends on which mental processes the couple uses to address it. For both the INFJ and the INTJ, the Copilot process is the ideal decision maker. The result: no fight. In other words: During a fight, the INTJ becomes the Feeler, and the INFJ becomes the Thinker. And they are both incompetent at these roles. The INTJ will start to rant about the unfairness of the situation. They may construct elaborate metaphors or hypotheticals trying to make their feelings understood. They could try to turn the tables and argue that they are the victim in the situation, even if they were actually the one who caused the initial slight. They will cast blame on their partner. The INFJ will start to demand answers to impossible questions: Why did you say this and not that? They may revisit the timeline of who said what and who said it first. They can dig into a vast repository of past slights, quoting something their partner said years ago as proof that the partner is lying or wrong. It involves physically separating. Instead, they have to go over it again and again in their own heads, alone. This is the ideal circumstance for their dominant Perspectives function to take over. The effective thing to do is to compromise. Neither an INFJ nor INTJ will react well to their partner walking out on them mid-argument—they will feel betrayed. Instead, you have to agree in advance to use this process the next time you fight, and then someone has to invoke it when the time comes. Are you an INFJ or INTJ who has dated the other type? Are you in a relationship with one right now? What do you feel pulls you two together—and what are the biggest stumbling blocks? An INTJ 8w7 , he is the co-founder of , where he writes about ; the COO of , where he writes about ; and the author of , a tale of magical realism set at the end of the age of American prosperity. My INFJ hubby and me INTJ have been together for 20 years married 18. He felt like home. On the section about fighting, we rarely fight, but we normally do go in to co-pilot, but on the rare times a silly disagreement or misunderstanding turns in to a fight or the other person is insulted and one or both of are under duress, our 10 year old selves come out. We learned in our first year of marriage, space and time fixes these fights. Everything in this article is so true. I do most of the masterminding and she helps show me how to realistically apply those ideas. Her perspective often keeps me in check. I love my best friend! My boyfriend is the INFJ. I can say this article really accurately describes some of the more intimate workings of our relationship. We are celebrating our 2nd anniversary in just over a month and have never fought. We handle disagreements with radical honesty and compromise. I had a good laugh at the part about being together in silence on devices and the INTJ ranting about an article. I found the part about disagreements to be incredibly enlightening. I once explained to my boyfriend how I shut down when someone raises their voice at me during an argument. I warned him if we were to fight not to yell at me, as it would be counterproductive to finding a solution. I suppose that motivation for the conversation makes me a typical INTJ. I, of course, pushed back. A fight is coming sooner or later, better to be prepared to work on our communication than blindly continue forward as though rough times never happen. He more or less compromised with me by returning my comment with a nod of acknowledgment. Relationship life is like a tunnel, long and much to explore. But after resolving the fight it feels more closeness. It feels we are connecting more at a deeper level. Love and every aspect of life is so amazing. Infj-intj couple is the best as far as I knew. I have never felt so complete and content in my life with anyone else before. So I encourage you to undergo any conflict or misunderstanding and resolve them. You will be amazed to experience mature love in a deeper level. Been together 4 years, 2. INFJ female here, INTJ male hubby. It still is, but obvs we have been growing a lot lately as Fe and Te clash. Ive met a bunch -my mom in law, 2 bosses, my sister in laws ex boyfriend- geez, superficially for a few hours great time, for whole day not my cup of tea and vice versa haha. My INTJ actually gets me and we have that telepathic mutual understanding and connection Ni and it feels unparalleled from anybody I know, any other type. Te actually is tribe reasons, while Fe is tribe feelings. Other than that our marriage is filled 90% or less if high stress hits like financial where i lost my job fue to chronic illness, illness itself, moving across the country together, etc major major stress…thank goodness each has been getting resolved w new treatment and my life back to normal, ours! Im also looking forwad to our 30s and 40s where Im supposed to grow my Ti and he his Fi-wooot! I hope no huge stressirs hit us like they did in our first 2 years married too omgosh. Stress changes people into their shadow personality but unhealthy way, and it becomes difficult to not be out of character or more or less emotional than one is. Hes the world to me and i to him since we met and hasnt changed but intensified in richer and new heights and ways. I met him online through OKCupid just typing INTJ on search??? I talked to others, but we became inseparable since. My intj was on same page since we first talked. He even gave me a promise ring 3 months after first talking, and even tho that sounds crazy, we both felt we just knew each other from childhood or from forever, like we had always been together. We really slowly gradually fell in love those 3 months, doing long distance!! A year later we got engaged. A year later married. He his Te and Fi, likewise. Ti sucks when hes doing Fi, I become cold and analytical whicb he doesnt need or appreciate. This is when i need to use Fe and kicking in my compassion and respect, and he using Te and not Fi to be able to see and act based on reason that I need him to and not whether somethign feels good to him tertiary Fi. Such rich information and sentiments here! This article was great, and I love reading the shared stories in the comments. Ahhhhh, the feeling of being understood. It helps me to appreciate how precious it is to give anohter the gift of feeling understood. Thank you for sharing your own story, too, Charis! INFJ wife to INTJ husband 15 yrs 1. INTJ thinks in systems and data. Think of a lawyer building their case in a courtroom. INTJs require evidence to come to the same accurate and correct conclusion that an INFJ did using their emotions. Is there a system for loading groceries in the back of the car correctly? Save yourself the stress and just let them have those Detective Monk moments. It really makes them happy. People say that the condition of your house is a reflection of your personality. INTJ have no sympathy for people doing something stupid or for someone suffering the consequences of poor decision-making. Their stance is that these people expected 2+2 to equal 5 which makes no sense at all. As an INFJ, I feel that the INTJ is the most wonderful human being ever. Everyone else in this world wears a mask. INTJs are honest and truthful. You know exactly where you stand with them. No fake laugh or false politeness. The ability to be quiet together cannot be overstated. The world is crazy and exhausting. The time you spend together is like a cocoon that shields you from the world outside. Very much appreciated for two personality types that are rare and are often misunderstood. My two cents What about be INTJ male with an ENFJ female? Can you tell me more about this dynamic? I am an INTJ male engaged to an INFJ female. We have been best friends since we were in seventh grade. Over the past 22 or so years, we have seen each other through divorces, horrible relationships that she stayed in for nine years — way too long! We have been there no matter what happened simply as best friends; neither of us harbouring hidden feelings for the other. That is, until I had helped her escape an abusive relationship referenced earlier. Shortly after we were taking down a broken limb dangling in bittersweet veins and the sparks starting flying higher and faster than a steel mill. Within three days I had broken up with my girlfriend and we had our first true kiss. Our long lasting loving link illuminated a sexual likening that neither of us had ever experienced! Our innate ability to communicate our wants has afforded us comfort, pleasure, and security. All of this is without realizing it, her mild OCPD works well with my rational mind and my messy organization-style works with her creative side. I am a scientist, she is an artist. We complement one another in every way possible: help with character defects, discuss a wide variety of topics from Czarist Russian history to the latest advances in physics without missing a beat, educate, support, foster creativity, and deeply love each other. I am honoured to say that we are currently engaged and plan to wed on 07. I am the luckiest man in history. And I the luckiest woman! One of our daily rituals is to write down two things we are grateful for in a journal. If a major issue arises, we state the issue and exchange gratitude lists. This allows me to ponder the issue and understand her feeling which, I rarely can articulate on my own. Following this separation, we can then approach the subject in a calm, cool, and collected manor. We have only had to do this one time — I am an alcoholic and she saw in our bank statement a purchase at a liquor store. She was concerned and thought that I had relapsed. By utilizing our predetermined discussion scenario, I was able to quell the understandable feelings she was having by explaining that I was helping a fellow alcoholic in active addiction to stay safe until he could get into a detox facility. However, we thought it pertinent to mention that this article ought to be taken as general guidelines in lieu of a rule book as every pairing is different. Finally, I wanted to mention that we sat here together writing this comment. What a wonderful way to spend a Saturday morning! Both of us were in some relationships before, we actually talked and shared it. He knows I was in a mentally abusive relationship, and I know he was put in a live changing decission by his ex. However, slowly but surely, his patience gives me hope to my self. Not only introvert, I am not expressive a rather poker face one which maybe not surprising to most INTJ and it is difficult for me to process my own feeling. But I learnt something from him… INFJ is very patient… as long as you tell them to wait. As I read all the wonderful comments about this pairing here and other places, I feel increasingly nostalgic for a time when we were just as amazing and equally hopeless for where we are now. Ok, felt moved to comment. Together 21 years — oldest child now 21, then a 16, then a 13 year old. If we fight, its devastating for both of us. If you want it to work, you can find a way. In the meantime — be kind! INFJ male here who ran into an INTJ female recently. I need someone who wants to understand me, stands up to me, criticizes my behaviour privately , and accepts me. Again, as in INFJ fighting is scary. Be brutally honest INFJs! Assume that the INTJ has NO IDEA what you are feeling. Tell them exactly how you are feeling, be calm and straightforward. Again rules…INTJs can easily process rules. Do you feel the same? Beat the INTJ to the punch…tell them about themselves, and how it affects you. This seemed to impress my boyfriend that I knew what he was thinking. But…when we separate, I am scared that I will never hear from you again. I will only feel better if we resolve the argument. How can we fix this? And just for the INFJs happiness…know when to say no. Know your red flags. INFJs have a tendency to hang on too long in bad relationships. So here is what I do, maybe it will help: One and done. It has to stop. Do not treat me like that again. Luckily, my boyfriend as changed immediately when I approach him as such. And I for him. So the short version: be blunt. INTJs are awesome people, but you need to spell out your feelings. Yeah I know those are unnatural behaviors for INFJs. But you can do it. Thanks for the comment. I think that is good advice for INFJs. Not just with my INTJ partner. I will need some time to think on it. Can we address this issue again tomorrow? INFJs, Please listen to me carefully. Here is my real life. And I am now married to this same women for 3+ years Cannot remember the exact times. I saw many things that I find it will be hard to get along with this women from the start of the relationship. Friends, I am wrong for my whole life. I cried when I read 4. How did I let this happened to this women? I am a piece of trash. I dont deserve her love. But I know that I cannot get along with her. No, she is neither INFJ nor INTJ. I am in a real pain. I wanted to be a better person and get into leadership roles, my wife was diagnosed with medical issues that both changed our perspectives and outlook. I can tell she is fighting herself over trusting her own INFJ feelings and of course I have been trying to live in the moment like she did. I just needed to be there with her. It took awhile to figure out my wife… I never needed to fully understand her before. She is my other half. Jan, I am glad that your relationship as blossomed for so long without any major changes. I hope this helps in case you both start becoming more like each other! I was in a peaceful relationship for two years in high school when an INTJ came and swept me off my feet. When we were pushed together under social circumstances, to my horror, I quickly realized that he was more interesting and more fun to be around than my own boyfriend. The INTJ and I had a very short relationship. When things got rough, he would retreat into himself. I wanted him to talk out his feelings with me, or spend more time with me. Then I reached out again. I asked to remain friends, but I ended up kissing him. Shortly after, I started college 3 hours away. I was going to visit him once a month as his casual sex partner. The idea drove me insane but I preferred it over never talking to him again. In college, I tried developing a fresh bond with an ENFJ. Unfortunately, that ENFJ turned out to be incredibly manipulative. Over the phone, I told the INTJ about everything. He listened intently, and offered to verbally destroy the ENFJ for me. I knew then that I was still completely in sync with this INTJ. I developed a newfound respect for him. He would rarely text back, but when he did, it would be something wacky or perplexing. I would visit him once a month, and instead of just sex, we would have a lot of fun. Very slowly, I could tell I was becoming his most important friend. It was very confusing. And he is still enthusiastic to see me whenever I visit town. As a male INTJ whose deepest intimate connections have only been with female INFJs, your post definitely resonated with me. Even though me and him are different people, I think I may be able to give a little insight into what is going on in his head. I just knew and felt something was wrong about it all. This often gives the appearance of not caring about those around me, which is paradoxically completely the opposite of reality; I do and always have cared deeply about those around me, especially those who I share an intimate connection with. Which I did, for a long time. It took me a very long time before I started to develop a worldview and understanding that allowed me to form healthy relationships again. Would luv any input on how to put my infj sensitivity to good use in letting go of my intj best guy friend I ever had, like a twin brother in my mind. He has stonewalled for years at a time, locked the door to our relationship. It happened twice before, and both times he came back to me but it took years! We both have had mental health issues and both sought help, and my health stabilized. He seems to have become a complete recluse from more than just me. My main question is how do mental health issues impact infj-intj friendship issues, and how each responds?? Thx so much, SP INFJ here, married to my INTJ husband for 4 years plus. I am the one who obsess to get to our destination as quick and efficient as possible, while he is the one who pays attention more on music and comfort while driving lol. I am so competitive on the road while he is so chill and laid back. Thanks for bringing that up, Gurl interrupted! I had thought the same thing when I read the article. As an INFJ, I am way more concerned with choosing the fastest possible route and making the necessary lane changes well in advance, whereas my INTJ husband spends so much time in his head he is usually on autopilot. But sometimes I let it loose too. Did you not see it? The site here was helpful and your email responses were too. I just wanted you to know how appreciative I am for help and diligence. I think that you may have slipped into your accuracy mode when he was driving, and if you are an accuracy user like the INTP or INFJ and you say something to an INTJ it can come across as a criticism to his effectiveness, then the ego defenses go up he slips into Authenticity and it results in an argument. INTJs as you know are very prideful of their competence, and if what someone that they value such as yourself critiques them they take it way harder than that of a stranger, because they are more vulnerable when they love and care about someone. His getting angry is a good sign by the way that he deeply cares for you and values your opinion and values you. I hope this helps. Thanks for your feedback. Your insight helps a lot. You are spot on about the need for NTJs to be perceived as competent — especially by people they value and respect. I have recently been exploring how data is perceived so differently by Ti vs Te. To Ti, data is just data. Not necessarily actionable, but always interesting. To Te, data should be actionable. Or an underlying message or intention. I think that was the biggest misunderstanding in the early years of my marriage to my INTJ. He would assume I had some underlying intent to my words, when in reality I was trying to be radically honest and open as I could be. I will try to implement some of your suggestions the next time we are in the car. And when I inevitably do something that questions his competency, I will remember your words and try to do some damage control. Do you mind if I ask you a question about Ti that confuses me? So is this like someone being a big talker? It seems very similar to Ni.. I have a friend that I think is an INFJ, however she is often not very Fe in the way she speaks, in fact she seems very closed lipped about her feelings for the most part, and when we do speak I try to bring up important things about life and family and what not that would appeal to her. I try to keep my logic to a minimum. Is this Fe in action? I am INFJ woman and just had my first experience dating and INTJ man. This article really summed it up perfectly. It was really rare and lovely. As an INFJ,I had a hard time understanding my INTJ boyfriend early on relationship but praise God we were able to get through it. Being in a long distance relationship helped us reflect on issues more often and avoid big arguments. The greatest stumbling block for us would be, me being emotionally high maintenance sometimes and him being clueless about how I feel. We almost broke up twice, first because I was still immature that time I was 19 and felt like he already lost interest on our relationship. I was sure it was the end but he did not give up on me, he instead gave me a month to think things over. The second time was worse, he was the one who asked for some time and space. It took us 7 months of no constant communication before finally patching things up which he initiated. Nevertheless, we were able to deal with our differences and realized we have this world only we can understand. He once said he tried discussing our topics to his friend but none of them can relate. We were laughing at how accurate many parts were. The car model explanation was immensely helpful. After so long together we generally operate from co-pilot but we have many decades ahead of us. Thank you for posting. I am in 2+ year relationship as an INTJ female with an INFJ male. This Car model was the perfect explanation! And your comments and seeing you found benefit after 10+ year even gives me more hope that we are not anomalous. Thank you Kate for commenting! But i know exactly who she is, and i love her for that if that makes any sense i care deeply about her, and i know that she cares deeply about me. So i know how much you have to be pained by this. I had met the greatest person I felt whole and now at least I know what it takes to date someone like me who has always felt a little left of the middle. This really is a great article! We were in our twenties and we were drawn to each other, but neither one of us was equipped to start a truly vulnerable conversation about it. On top of that, we had different views on faith and spirituality he lost his faith a long time ago and that held me back a great deal. It kept us from sleeping with each other. Both my wife of 12 years and I agree this describes us perfectly. I agree with a lot of the comments above. It takes work for it to be fulfilling. As an INTJ it took me a long time to be able to communicate to others that I do care about the human effects of a system or solution. It took my INFJ a long time for her to believe that I cared too! Both have to be willing to grow. Once they mature a bit they really are the Gokden couple. I am so happy that you feel you have a great relationship with your significant other! I feel I would have to agree with the above comment. That being said, I do believe that there are healthy INTJs to be found. I just havet met any yet. She turned out to be very insecure nearing the end of our two-year relationship and was afraid of commitment and became increasingly shallow. Though she blocked herself off after the breakup half of which was guilt, and the other half due to my curiosity which only made her guilt worse , she came to a point of opening up just enough that I finally understood her point of view and it was both the most painful and relevatory few months of my life. Through her choosing to break up, I grew and she fell as a result. Reading this article makes me very much want another INFJ in my life, even as just a friend. This article is so confirming. I am a female INTJ who borders on INFJ. My closest male friend is the same. We can talk for ten hours straight without feeling bored or drained. Quiet time together is peaceful and relaxing. We both had long term marriages to opposite personalities, and it was disastrous for each of us. Being with other personality types can quickly drain and frustrate us. We are quirky and share a bizarre sense of humor. We spend a lot of time laughing while others look at us strangely. I have read several times that my perfect match would be an ENFP. Thanks for the confirmation. Hi Linda, INTJ female here. Now it bothers me less cos I need help that only she can give, being INFJ, my sister and my closest confidant. Great article Andre and great point Vioanna about your husband helping you develop your feeling side…exactly why I want an INFJ…to balance me out. I could be wrong though. While he may not get every single thing I say, he just completely gets me. For example, he comes to his ideas of the universe, life, and consciousness from a more Zen way and I come in with hard critical thinking and science. But well both see that the natural flow of nature falls in the same way. The portion on fights and resolution is perfect. Now nearly every disagreement is a building block because we learn more about each other. I had a relationship as an INFJ with three different INTJs and they were each a bit of a nightmare by the end. It takes a ton of work for the benefits it provides, much more than some other pairings. I think we could say that about any relationship, in fact. The success of the relationship is extremely reliant on the health of both individuals. As an INFJ married to an INTJ for 15 years, I completely concur that there can be hardships… especially if both parties are not focused on growth and compromise. Both types fear vulnerability so much that it takes years to strip away the layers of protection and reach true intimacy. It took my husband and me 10 years to get to a point of true intimacy. We were both living in our 10-year-old cognitive functions. I was pragmatic and emotionless and he was given to spontaneous explosions which I despised him for. I viewed it as weakness. Once I started to grow and step into my copilot of Harmony, he started to feel safer. I think INTJs have a harder time finding that safety and being willing to open to it. Now he is the most attentive, kind and thoughtful person I have ever met. But it took a lot of work to get him there, and it took a lot of work to get me to a place where I could trust him and help him to trust me. Ten years may seem like a long time to make a relationship work, but it was the familiarity of him that kept me going. The safety I felt to be myself. I knew he loved me unconditionally and understood me profoundly, and that made up for a lifetime of never feeling understood. Again though, it is hugely important that both people are focused on personal growth, as with any successful relationship.

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Heidi Priebe is a personality psychology writer who focuses primarily on the Jung-Myers model of psychological type. To thy own self be true because why not. But INFJs and INTJs always seem to have fuel for great mbti dating guide. A description of each. Try not to take it personally. They may be the ones who frequently bicker but can't do apart. However, there are many times where someone has said harsh things to me, yet I still trust them. You also agree to the specified. However, those who take the time to understand the system will begin to appreciate other people in a completely different light. I wish she would meet me more than halfway on this. مسلسل صدفة الحلقة 36 مدبلج Hvad betyder denne smiley ☺️ برنامج سيداتي انساتي